Have any of you seen the TLC show “Long Lost Family”? For those that haven’t, let me explain to you—-Long Lost Family is a show in which birth parents begin the search to find and meet the child(ren) they gave up for adoption. Sometimes it’s reversed, and the children is looking for his/her birth mom/dad (or both). Some stories have ended in tragedy, where the sought after parent/child is deceased, but most of the episodes end in a tearful reunion and beginning of a new relationship. I have recently been through my own personal episode of Long Lost Family (no I won’t be on the TV show!) and the reunion is pending.
No, I wasn’t adopted. But I don’t really know much about the other generations, the other leafs on my family tree. Both sides of my family are pretty quiet about past relatives, and what they did for a living ect. I guess I’m just more curious than they are? Anyway—-I recently decided (thanks to some gentle pushing from my roommate) to try and find some things on ancestry. And I hit pay dirt almost immediately! My favorite find on my mother’s side, sadly, is unable to have a reunion, as he passed in 1999, but he was a priest with the order of La Salette, and is buried at the shrine in Enfield, NH. Somebody yell road trip! But my most prized find comes from my father’s side of the family…..through my digging, I have discovered 2 cousins and an aunt. And this blog is dedicated to them….I haven’t met any of them yet, but they have already changed my life. I have felt happier since finding them. I finally feel loved by someone in my family, and not ignored, slighted, or all out bashed verbally. I’d like to write a little something to each of them, before I end this little blog. So here it goes—-
Linda- The cousin who started it all. I contacted you first. I was thrilled you answered back. It’s you that gave me the key to finding the other cousin, and your mom. Making that contact. And although we haven’t met, I feel a deep resonating connection with you. Perhaps we’ve carried similar wounds, perhaps we’ve had similar feelings about ourselves. Whatever it is, I’m glad I’ve found you, and can’t wait for you to visit, so we can finally meet and get to know each other more.
Allison- the cousin I’ve met, but never really known….until now. I sense an equally strong relationship with you as I do with Linda, but of a different type. You are strong, intuitive, faithful. My one “memory” of you is a sad one, surrounding the death of my father, and your beloved uncle. I do recall him always speaking of your flowers, although I don’t recall him using your name. I look forward to our HAPPY reunion, and giving you a hug that for once, is not taking place in a funeral parlor, and not of a sad nature (although tears may still fly—-they will be happy ones!)
To Shirley—my long lost aunt. Married to an uncle that was never spoke of around me at family functions, an uncle I never knew. Likewise, an aunt, and cousins and “step” cousins I never knew—–until now. My one regret is I didn’t do this sooner. I didn’t push my grandmother, or aunts and uncles to talk of your husband Wilfred. I didn’t ask questions about the missing brothers. Perhaps I still wouldn’t have known. But I know you now, and God willing, we will have some time to get to know each other.
There’s so much for all of us to catch up on—–lives, memories, stories, pictures. For 29 years, I knew nothing of these three lovely ladies. And now that I’ve found them—–I can’t imagine life without them. May our reunion be soon, and our memories be countless from this day forward. I love all of you dearly already, and pray for you daily. Here’s to catching up on what was lost, and celebrating what’s to come.